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Alan’s Monday Morning Memo – 1/18/10

Alan’s Monday Morning Memo’s mission is to help readers to thrive.

January 18, 2010—Issue #18

This week’s focus point: The enormous, costly ($200 million?), embarrassing problems that NBC television are having is indicative of why your value as a consultant is so important. Otherwise intelligent, well-educated, highly-regarded, wealthy people in huge offices are making dunderheaded decisions every day, because they are surround by people afraid to tell them that they’re not wearing any clothes.

Monday Morning Perspective: I envy those people who truly understand that life is a fragile bargain, rescindable at any time by the other party, and live their lives accordingly. — Joseph Epstein, “A Line Out for A Walk”

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Pacific Tales

I’ve just completed the Mentor Summit and Mentor Hall of Fame Meeting in San Francisco, and a day’s presentation for Rob Nixon’s Coaching Club in Honolulu. And now we’re taking a week off on the beach.

We’re at the Sheraton Waikiki, where we stayed a couple of times over 30 years ago. Ordinarily we’d be elsewhere, but the function was held here and they’ve refurbished the suites. We have one balcony in the bedroom that shows the sunrise, and another in the living quarters that shows the sunset! Twenty-five stories below, we can watch giant, green sea turtles meander in the crystal clear water. If you’re lucky, they’ll swim up to you when you wade in.

Unlike so many popular tourist destinations, the food here is great (as it was in San Francisco, where we dined again at Gary Danko, for my money on of the dozen best restaurants in the US). So far, Roy’s has been our favorite here with some incredible fish, but we’re off to Alan Wong’s tomorrow which has a sterling reputation, so we’ll see.

Sitting in church before mass on Sunday here, I realized that my wallet was gone. It must have fallen out of my pocket in the cab. My wife asked if I wanted to leave, but I observed that church was probably where I belonged at the moment. Fortunately, I usually keep a hundred dollars of bills in a side pocket, and I had money for the collections and a cab home. I tried to enjoy the service and the sermon was quite well done.

I notified the cab company (“Sir, we have 500 cabs, but I’ll put out a text message for you”) which is actually called The Cab Company. I notified Cori, the guest services manager who had escorted us to our suite when we arrived, in case I needed to get some cash. Then I called the credit card companies, which took only 20 minutes for all of them. One woman asked, “Are you all right?” I was very impressed. Amex will have three different, new cards to me today, Tuesday, by Fedex, at no charge.

My wife remarked on how well I had handled things, and said that she hoped whoever found the wallet could really use the $800 inside of it.

We hit the beach.

At about 4 pm we returned, to a blinking message light. It was Cori. “I have your wallet,” she practically screamed, “the cab driver dropped it off and I have his number for you.” I quickly called to ask him to return for a reward. He hasn’t done so yet.

The worst thing about losing my wallet would be a few photos from 30 years ago that can’t be replaced. My car dealer would replace the registration, and AAA would replace my license. Various club memberships would easily be restored. The money can always be replaced. We have to keep things in perspective.

And the greatest perspective is that most other people are like you, not damaged somehow, and willing to do the right thing. I realized that I had returned money, airline tickets, and all sorts of things I’ve found. Why wouldn’t I? Why wouldn’t the cab driver?

We’re off to the beach again, to the turtles, to the Pacific.

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The New Product Experience

If you’ve ever wanted to create your own products and passive income, this is the experience for you. Through a combination of workshops, teleconferences, podcasts, and print materials, we will take you through conceptualization to creation. There are three optional levels of participation, including third-party promotion and selling the product on my web site!

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Initial Workshop, March 4, Warwick, RI.

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Mentor Summit in San Francisco

Participants at work and views from our suite at the Mandarin Oriental at Alan’s Mentor Summit.

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Alan’s Monday Morning Memo – 1/11/10

Alan’s Monday Morning Memo’s mission is to help readers to thrive.

January 11, 2010—Issue #17

This week’s focus point: Is your brand/repute/intellectual property/marketing reach stronger this week than last? Will they be stronger next week? If you’re in any business where marketing is vital—and this applies to virtually every entrepreneur and professional services provider—you are your own chief marketing officer. Develop and implement two strong, affirmative, constructive steps each week that will prompt people to come to you. If you don’t, who will?

Monday Morning Perspective: Perfection of means and confusion of ends seem to characterize our age. — Albert Einstein

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Upgrade Your Attitude

We were waiting in the United Airlines Red Carpet Club for our flight to Hawaii from San Francisco. A woman in ragged jeans and unkempt hair took a seat across from us.

Promptly, she fished her cell phone out of her bag and began a conversation with some unknown sponge, because she never stopped talking and complaining, indicating to me that the other person never spoke, but just absorbed. Her harangue was about her failure to be upgraded to first class.

She bemoaned the fact that there were no first class seats available for upgrade. She told the voiceless person on the other end that she alternatively believed that she was lied to, there weren’t enough seats allocated for upgrades, others of lesser status were getting upgrades (Y2K, one-world, seven star, diamond, elite, alliance partners—or something), and that the system was totally unfair.

It turned out that first class was, indeed full (“completely checked in,” as they say on the gate monitor), and, once seated, we saw her trudge by us on her way to the back, apparently eyeing the up-front crowd to try to determine which of her inferiors usurped her spot on the five-hour flight. I tried desperately to establish eye contact, but she had gone on to glower at a flight attendant.

If you want to be assured of a first class seat, buy a first class ticket.

Periodically, Business Week or the Wall Street Journal will run a fluff piece about someone who “plays the system,” gathering points from hotel stays, oil changes, and pay-per-view, as well as “chatting up” gate attendants, flight attendants, and rest room attendants, in order to secure upgrades with amazing rates of success.

It always occurred to me that if they had put the same amount of drive, energy, and talent into their own work, they probably would be successful enough to actually afford first class seats. But they’d rather play the system, to the extent they resent it if people paying full fare monopolize their monopoly game.

You and I have seen myriad people who seek recognition without merit; who want promotion without talent; who seek money without providing value; who want to be respected without expertise. They are usually of the mind of the woman on my flight, and sing a victim’s lament when they wind up in the rear, as well.

None of use deserves what we don’t earn. Oh yes, I know that frequenting an airline, flying a lot of miles, gathering points—all of that—makes one a good customer. But if someone is willing to pay more for a first class seat, then they deserve it. (I once watched a late arrival with a first class ticket find an upgrade in his assigned place, who had sweet-talked the gate agent to give him the seat, refusing to budge. What’s next, first one to the bank gets all the money, and it doesn’t matter who deposited it?)

If you’re in business, you reap what you sow, no free rides, no free lunches. You can’t get away with telling the customers to keep coming merely because you’ve been there a long time. Nor can you expect people to choose you over the competition because you open 20 minutes earlier or provide free bottles of water. You have to provide real value to beat the competition.

If you want to be assured of business, then provide more value than the competitors, don’t whine about unfairness in the “system.”

I can also remember when airline clubs were by invitation only, you had to dress properly, and the amenities were superb. But someone filed a lawsuit because he felt that he “deserved” access just as much as those people whom the airline considered its best passengers, and now you’re entertained in these clubs by people in shorts cutting their toenails with their feet on the tables, and the places are jammed. But don’t get me started on that.

If you want to ensure your success, focus on and work at providing more value than anyone else in your field. If you want to ensure your place in first class, then invest in a first class ticket. Otherwise, there’s no logical reason for you to be in front.

© Alan Weiss 2010. All rights reserved.

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An Interesting Statistic

We processed here (independent of Amazon.com) several thousand orders for my new book, Thrive! Some nice people did the fulfillment and processing. Of those orders, only 12 credit cards were declined, and 11 of those people got back to us promptly with the correct cards. Only one person, in Lithuania, turned out to have a bad card, phony phone, and phony email. I’m sure he’s proud to have stolen a $25 book. I don’t see how this book can help someone like him, but who knows?

So many people are cynical about dealing with the public. But if you don’t assume your customer is damaged, and you provide reasonable trust, you wind up dealing with people with the same values that you have most of the time. I’ve never understood people in the retail business who clearly don’t like dealing with customers, don’t trust them, and are rude.

I still remember the people who wouldn’t let me write with an expensive pen I was considering, wouldn’t let me even sit in a rare, exotic sports car, lest I scratch the leather, and wanted deposits before they would order inexpensive books. I remember them because I never returned, and they were such exceptions.

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Drew Stevens Interviews Alan Weiss

Listen to this podcast and to Dr. Drew Stevens Interviewing Dr. Alan Weiss. Learn the formula of writing an article, titles and why you need powerful language.
 

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Thrive! and Spirituality Workshops

TWO BRAND NEW EXPERIENCES, NOT YET ADVERTISED, SPECIAL TO MY COMMUNITIES:

THRIVE! WORKSHOP
April 21-22, Newport, RI
A full day and optional second morning based on my newest book. Learn how to jettison baggage, organize around pragmatic needs and not empty wishes, blow up obstacles to success, and face each morning thrilled with the personal and professional opportunities that await. Invigorate your life. The optional, second morning will feature a personal, customized, Thrive Plan. Write me for a special price before this goes up on my web site this later month: BentleyGTC@summitconsulting.com.

SPIRITUALITY WORKSHOP
May 19-20, Newport, RI
A full day and optional second day to explore the role of spirituality in our lives. This will feature a segment with a “God Squad” interdenominational panel of clergy moderated by me, examination of the differences and commonalities between a spiritual life and religious life, examples of how we deal with loss, uncertainty, the unknown, and fears. This is not a religious retreat, but rather a candid discussion of what spirituality is and why it matters. The optional second morning will feature voluntary discussions of personal experiences and learning for all of us to share. Limited participation. Write me for a special price before this goes up on my web site this month: BentleyGTC@summitconsulting.com.

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Reality IS Perception

I hear a lot of consultants asking themselves (and me!), “What really happened in there?” It’s as if they had an experience in someone’s office, but are fairly certain their perceptions don’t reflect reality.

I have news for you: There is no utter reality, no file under “What actually occurred,” no third party umpiring the game (and, of course, umpires are notoriously subjective in the way they call balls and strikes). There are only your perceptions and the other people’s perceptions.

So how do you know if they match or not? Because, if they do, then you can be certain you’re dealing with reality, since you have a shared, common perception of what occurred. There is no other version.

You need to test before you leave. You must investigate whether what you perceive is the same as what the prospect or client perceived. Here are some excellent testing questions:

• Are we in agreement that I’m responsible for X and you’re responsible for Y?
• What is your impression of our next steps?
• What are the opportunities you see as we conclude this meeting?
• What are the risks you see as we conclude this meeting?
• What remaining obstacles are there that we’ve discussed or haven’t discussed?
• Who else are we going to involve from here?
• What are the deadlines we’ve agreed upon?
• What are the three or four top priorities at this juncture?
• What resources are we missing?
• How are we judging progress from here?
• What are the ultimate outcomes we’re agreeing on?
• The next time we talk will be on this date at that time, correct?

You get the idea. You don’t need a bare light bulb and uncomfortable wooden chair for the interrogation, but you do need to ensure that, before you go out the door, you and the others present agree on these kinds of basic facts. “We’ll talk soon,” and “We have some terrific opportunities,” and “There could be some rough patches,” just don’t cut it. Even statements such as “I’m pleased,” and “This has been a good meeting, good progress,” may mean different things to different people (“better than I had hoped for,” or “but not as good as I expected”).

When a client doesn’t follow through, or you don’t get paid as expected, or you’re not supported as you had intended to be, it’s often not a case of the other person letting you down. It’s frequently a result of your not taking the extra time to make sure that you shared the same reality.

Perception, we’re told is reality. Well, then the converse must be true: Reality is perception. Don’t you agree?

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