Who Asked You?

There are trolls and arrogant souls out there who sit back and just send people “feedback,” claiming that responsible people always listen to feedback. Smart people listen to feedback from those they respect and ask, not from strangers, about their business. The problem is that if you don’t have strong self-esteem these slings and arrows can deflate your sails readily. Treat these people as the uninvited interlopers they are, and toss them out. We build statues for creators, not critics. …



You’re Agile. I’m Resilient

Don’t try to be merely different, show that you’re better. If someone were to say, “We’re all about agile, agile is the hot topic today.” You say, “Well, I’m about resilience. Here’s the difference: An agile fielder might avoid a ball that’s difficult and dangerous, but a resilient fielder adjusts to the bad bounce and still makes the play.” Or: “Agility helps you to bounce around in place, but resilience carries you forward into the future.” Find a way to make …



Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 9/26/16

Alan's Monday Morning Memo

My dogs are excellent at anticipating and picking up non-verbal cues. If I put on my gym shorts and sneakers, they go back to sleep, because they don’t come with me when I work out. But if I put on street clothes, they run to the bedroom door because we’re going for coffee (and biscuits). They then pause at key junctures to determine how we’ll depart—am I headed for the front door, the rear door, or the garage? They get …


Trinity Slays Beowulf

Take a cauldron, add in Cabaret, Rent, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, and Hair, then blow it up, and you’ll find yourself immersed in Trinity Rep’s brilliant Beowulf, now being performed through October 9 in Providence. You don’t walk away from this performance humming any tunes, but then again, I didn’t from In the Heights or Hamilton, either, and they’re merely two of the finest musicals of the past decade. To quote the immortal Seinfeldia lore: This show is Broadway-worthy. …


Shut Up

Over 95% of the time, the more you talk, the more you’re trying to justify and validate your own thoughts and utterances. You’re not talking to further educate the other party or to answer a question, you’re either trying to highlight your erudition (low self-esteem) or you’re trying to justify what you’ve previously said because you don’t think it will be accepted without backup (lower self-esteem). A woman whom I recently rejected for my coaching program wouldn’t shut up. She …


Brand Power

There are some people reviewing the new iPhone—and deciding on its purchase, personally—based on the differences and improvements over the prior product. That’s not terribly relevant. Apple stock has soared, and iPhone 7 sales are exceeding iPhone 6 sales. Some people are advising to wait for the tenth anniversary of the phone, when changes “will really be significant” in another year or so. That’s not terribly relevant. I had to inform one person (almost with pictures since words weren’t scoring) …



Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 9/19/16

Alan's Monday Morning Memo

We often overlook motive in our analysis. The police look for motive, means, and opportunity in crimes. We’re not facing crimes as such, although we often build a sleight into a slander because we fail to consider motive. When a loved one creates discomfort for us, is it because of a malicious intent, or an accident? Failing to relay a message is unfortunate, but usually just an oversight, not a plot. Someone pulling in front of you abruptly on the …