Restraint is tough, isn’t it? Our tendency as bright, successful, confident people is to respond. We want to take part in the conversation, we desire to add to the debate, we seek to thwart the bad decision. Conversely, we don’t want to be euchered out of our beliefs and opinions.
But we’re often more powerful in silence. When we attempt to respond (retaliate?) to the braggart and self-centered, or the passive-aggressive, we wind up playing their game. They feed on others’ expressed discomfort and outrage. When lawyers don’t have the merits on their side, they argue the law. When irritating, immature people don’t have the logic on their side they seek to disturb us emotionally.
But they’re rendered impotent when we remain silent. They need the ping pong ball to be returned. If we walk away from the game, they’re simply standing there, looking forlorn, holding a useless paddle.
One thing I have learned in my painful career as a gambler is that bragging when you get lucky and win a few games will plunge you into gloom and unacceptable beatings very soon. It happens every time.
—Hunter S. Thompson
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