Stop thinking you need validation and, worse, taking the time to provide it whenever you speak.
• You don’t demand to see the collegiate records of your dentist, nor the last inspection reports from the board of health.
• You don’t demand a personal conversation with the invited speaker before you attend the event.
• You don’t read an author’s book before deciding whether or not to pay for it.
• You don’t demand to see your money each day on deposit at the bank, nor test the night alarm system.
• You don’t ask for a résumé of all the top managers in a company in which you invest.
Why not? Because you use your judgment, have faith, trust in others’ judgment, believe that people are competent or wouldn’t be doing what they’re doing, and that others–at appropriate junctures–ARE checking for quality and safety.
So just give us your opinion without citing ancient Greek philosophers, a book by Peter Drucker, or a survey from the New England Journal of Canine Psychology. If you’re an expert, I’ll trust your opinion and decide whether to use it or not. If you’re not an expert, then maybe you should go lightly on having opinions.
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