Self-Esteem and Control

I’ve been called on to do more work in coaching and mentoring with self-esteem than any other single issue. And this is, indeed, the main obstacle that solo practitioners face. “Why would they listen to me?” or “I’ll send an email instead of making the call,” or “I can’t ask them to pay me in advance.”

I’ve found that self-esteem is about control—control of your own life. And that control is based on your ability to organize your life. That means not being subject to others’ objectives in place of your own; being able to access what you need when you need it; having discretionary time; and being able to focus on your real priorities.

One you’re organized, your control is enhanced, which gives you greater power (flexibility, versatility, influence, and so forth); greater power leads to more success, which enriches your self-esteem.

It can be that simple. Get yourself organized, physically and mentally, and stop talking about “overwhelm” or “writer’s block” or “being lost.” That’s just negative nonsense.

Organize your life and work, gain control, and you’ll get yourself out of the “doom loop” and into the “success loop.”

© Alan Weiss 2013

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