Over 95% of the time, the more you talk, the more you’re trying to justify and validate your own thoughts and utterances. You’re not talking to further educate the other party or to answer a question, you’re either trying to highlight your erudition (low self-esteem) or you’re trying to justify what you’ve previously said because you don’t think it will be accepted without backup (lower self-esteem).
A woman whom I recently rejected for my coaching program wouldn’t shut up. She rambled on at ferocious length, digression upon detour upon declivity. I told her she had horrible communications skills.
“I’ve never been told that before!” she huffed.
Of course not, no one could ever get a word in without a crowbar.
Experts give their opinion and then shut up. As I am now.
© Alan Weiss 2016