The best groups I’ve ever formed or facilitated have members who are uniformly comfortable being vulnerable. My wife commented once, while sitting in with the group’s permission, that it was the first such meeting she’d ever attended where no one, once, said, “Yes, but.”
Bentley’s ears are very sensitive to thunder. When it occurs, he seeks protection next to me or under my chair or under my desk (not always easy for an 82-pound German Shepherd). He doesn’t try to pretend it doesn’t bother him, he seeks help and assurance.
It’s fine to seek help. But first you have to allow for the fact that you need it. I have never been able to help someone who doesn’t admit they need help, and that is not my shortcoming.