Here’s a recent blog post, I’m told from the Harvard Business Review, sent to me by Alden Ulrich:
Skip the Mr. and Mrs.
Adapted from “What’s in a (First) Name” by Jodi Glickman.
If you’re what the writer calls a “junior employee” I’d be a tad careful before calling a senior vice president “Joe” or the general counsel “Katey.” It doesn’t level the playing field, especially in hierarchically staid organizations, but it can brand you as abrasive and pretentious rather quickly.
No one ever got in trouble by showing too much respect. Someone who’s clearly a peer can use your first name. Socially, who cares? (Although I still encounter pompous doctors being introduced at a fund raiser or dinner as “Dr. Johnson,” rather than “Mary Johnson.”) If you’re calling out of the blue and want a favor from me or, heaven forfend, cold calling, once you begin with, “Alan, how are you?” and I don’t know you, you’re pretty much finished.
This is especially true with senior people at clients. They’ll usually say, “Call me Harry,” but give them that option. The problem is, apparently, we’re all forgetting too much of what our parents told us and reading too much of the Harvard Business Review blog.
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