But Enough About Me, What Do You Think About Me?

You are self-absorbed when: • You accept a mobile phone call while talking to someone else. • You bring coffee into your trainer’s gym. • You drive in the left lane with a dozen cars behind you trying to get by. • You talk during a performance. • You bring your own coffee into a breakfast restaurant. • You yank out your phone upon meeting someone and show them photos….of anything. • Your voice mail informs people you’re not available …


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I’m at an old-fashioned hardware store here named Salk’s Ace Hardware. It has aisle upon aisle of tools, lightbulbs, screws, barbecue accessories, garden stuff, etc. And there are a dozen people in red shirts to help you. It’s far more accommodating than Home Depot or Loew’s. However, their weak point is checkout. There are only two stations, one staffed by a young woman and the other by a woman older than I. They are clearly the regular cashiers. On this …


What Arena Are You In?

Maimi, with one loss, was trounced by Clemson last night 38-3. Sometimes, no matter what your record, what matters most is the level of the competition. Champions have to win consistently, not just against weaker teams. The year the Miami Dolphins went undefeated (1972) their opponents were weak teams with not a contender among them. In fact ONLY two teams had a winning record and the combined record was 70-122-4. When the Patriots finished the season (2007) undefeated, six of their …


Stealing More Than the Ball

Three UCLA basketball players in China with the team were found guilty of shoplifting and it took the President of the US appealing to the President of China to free them. UCLA says they will be “suspended” from team activities and may, “at some point,” be allowed to work out again with the team. Here’s another idea: Why not insist they actually attend class, do some public service work, and see if they can maintain the grades necessary to stay …




What’s That Sound?

If all you do is boast of your successes and never share your failures I’m not very interested in your successes. I call these “drive-by brags.” Someone you rarely hear from zooms in, tells you their latest great feat, and disappears. Down the road and out of sight they’ve probably crashed into a tree. Those are the people who, in the absence of an audience, tend to applaud themselves. Their voice mail is something like this: “I can’t answer the …


You May Be Wrong, But You’re Also Annoying

I asked a woman at a pro bono speech I was making what kind of value she provided. She stammered and then said something uninteresting. I suggested some ways to change her approach and mentioned four elements. “Oh, I don’t agree with with two of those,” she said, “I’m an expert in this field and those approaches don’t work.” It was clear she had zero idea of what she was talking about, yet her defensiveness was world class. She heard …


A Bight of the Apple

You’ve got to love people already complaining about the new iPhones without even having them in hand as yet. If you don’t like them, don’t buy them. But don’t sit there whining that Apple hasn’t made its new product exactly as you’d like it. People with this attitude allow it to pervade their lives. They don’t like the way the seats are set up in a concert, object to the rules about food on the beach, want the airlines to …


Keep Your Pets on A Leash

A pet is something that receives particular favor, as in “teacher’s pet.” A peeve is an irritation that one feels, real or perceived. Hence, a “pet peeve” is a particularly welcome irritation, giving someone reason to complain. If you have enough of them, sort of a “herd of pet peeves,” you’ll find yourself standing all by yourself with just your “pets” to keep you company. Nobody enjoys a chronic complainer.